It starts with a little tremble and self-doubt within, then pressure builds up, with clammy hands, you feel the moist in your hands, profuse sweat, shaky voice, racing heart, the butterflies in your stomach and your inner calmness is blown away. So just in time for that event or date, you had been looking forward to or an important meeting at work or school presentation.
Being nervous is a major part of life that everyone has to deal with at sometimes. We have at once been nervous and can still be. But it can get pretty annoying and discomforting when it becomes a common occurrence.
Just to let you know
It is normal; it’s what makes us human with a functioning nervous system and one of the many wonderful experiences we enjoy.
We can get nervous about certain things depending where we find ourselves— for some people, having to perform in front of a crowd makes them nervous, or getting interviewed for a job can be a nervous experience. Whenever we are confronted with stressful situation, we all exhibit the same nervous reaction, but just to a different degree and in different ways.
The heart palpitations we experience are caused by the surges of adrenaline (the hormone that prepares us for any sudden physical activity) that goes with anxiety and stress, your nervous system becomes hyper alert. At that point, we begin to feel the physical symptoms.
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Practical Steps to Take When You’re Nervous
If you’re prone to having nervous thoughts, feeling stressed or find yourself generally overwhelmed, these easy and practical strategies will help you trick your brain that you’re OK.
1. Take a Deep Breath
When you focus on slowing your breathing, you can short-circuit and redirect your entire nervous system. Taking a deep breath is one fast relief for anxiety, or feeling nervous. Everyone has that feeling of insecurity or anxiety once in a while, I literally can’t forget my project presentation day at University, and I thought I had it all, not until I saw the crowd waiting to hear me talk. I almost lost control but I took a deep breath, holding in some oxygen in my diaphragm for few seconds each time before exhaling. I was calm, relieved and less agitated.
That has being my easy-quick way out and nervous-reducing technique, tricks my body into its quick relaxation mode. So breathing exercise can be extremely helpful when it comes to calming down your heart and nerves.
2. Recognize it as a Sign for Something Good
It was my final year in the college, I’ve always been shy and I had my ex doing almost everything for me, and it’s time for the next adventure.
When I was in my final year in the University, among writing my project, we had this class presentation. I thought getting ready with all my facts and figures made me prepared and that everything was sorted out.
Boy, my nervous system wasn’t in agreement. I was so nervous, that I never thought I could go through with the presentation. Again at the same time, I knew right in the pits of my stomach that I needed to do it. Well, unless I was ready to blow away the extra good points it would give to my grades and the opportunity of graduating in peace.
At that point, I had to think positively, counting and recognizing I was doing it for a greater good and was surely for me to reach greater heights in life. Now if we didn’t have that awful feeling of nervousness occasionally, that would really suggest we are not pushing our boundaries, taking steps or we are stuck at a place in life.
So if you’re feeling nervous, remind yourself that you’re about to achieve something bigger and greater as to push you forward in life. Watch you push through and knock off that inner negative voice.
3. Don’t Fight Your Emotions
You just have to say to yourself “OK, I feel really nervous. I didn’t even know that bit of me could sweat. Okay body, you win”. You’re allowed to feel as bad as you want. Do not force yourself to calm down or relax, try responding to your nerves and brain in a loving way. Try not to push away your nerves or disregard them or they’ll always bounce back at you in more agonizing way. Just remind yourself that they’re always there to act and remind you how important something is..
Acknowledging and accepting your emotions is critical because trying to wrangle or eliminate your feeling often worsens it. It just perpetuates the idea that what you’re feeling is intolerable.
When you acknowledge your emotions, it doesn’t mean you’re comfortable with it or that you’re resigning yourself to a miserable feeling or giving up. It just means you would benefit by accepting reality as it is — and in that moment, reality includes being nervous and feeling insecure.
4. Just Smile
Another way to trick your body to relax more is to smile like you mean it. No matter how nervous you might be feeling or uncomfortable, smiling puts you at ease and can alter your mood. You tell your brain, that all is ok and there’s nothing to be afraid of and that you’re going to be ok with whatever you are about to experience. When just wear a smile, you’ll see things in a happier, much calm and serene light.
5. Change Your Posture.
Sometimes, when I feel like I’m at that point where my heart is racing uncontrollably, muscle tensing up, I just breathe, smile and try changing my posture. I make my body tell my brain how to feel irrespective of what uncomfortable condition, I might be in.
Throw your shoulders back, extend your shoulders and take a step. You can also do some stretches if you are in the position to do so. You can just pace or move about or try something else, but don’t just sit at a place hoping to feel better instantly. Being a little bit abnormal can actually do a whole lot of trick to your brain and suddenly redirect its attention.
So Stand up, take a walk, gladly take any action that interrupts your train of thought and helps you regain a sense of control.
It often seems like the negative voice I hear is just near to my ears whispering to me, and changing my position makes that voice less clear till it fades away. You can try it, totally works for me.
Don’t forget whenever you are feeling nervous
You have to remind your brain that you’re in control, and that you’re strong, bold, worthy and very in CHARGE of yourself but not in an aggressive way. Convince your emotions that the feelings of low self-worth, shame and guilt are not accurate. Negative thoughts cause negative feelings.
You can read all the anti-nervous advice in the world, but none of this matter unless you take action now.
So, take a time and ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Then, ask yourself, “How would I cope if that happened?” Now answer those questions.
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