Anxiety comes with “feeling of apprehension” and it’s just what happens whenever we neglect and don’t take care of our mental health.
This feeling comes with fear, depression, panic and of course anxiety. And suffering from either is unbelievably difficult because nobody knows how you feel and what you’re feeling.
The feeling drains every bit of you, you experience your personal dark days, and the life in you gets drained over and over again. You hope tomorrow will get better, but sometimes, it doesn’t and this unbearable cycle continues.
You wake up every morning and hope for a superb and great day, then along the way, anxiety comes to snatch it all away from you.
And whenever you find yourself in such state of mind- you desire and want to get better,
You’ve met amazing and supportive people who out of their good mind dish out tips to help you feel better- some you’ve tried while some you reluctantly ignore because YOU’RE TIRED!
The best way to cope and manage anxiety is to avoid your anxiety triggers until it gradually dies off.
Constantly practicing self-care routine or keeping a morning routine can sure make you feel good but just for the moment. The lasting effect of it is to stop and avoid whatever that triggers anxiety in you.
These are things you must stop doing to manage Anxiety and take back your life;
1. Stop Your Excessive Use of Social Media
Social media have an ugly way of sharpening us into what we don’t want to be like and making us accept it.
I was addicted to social media- I love it, I spend my entire day chatting and comparing each time I scroll down past any perfect image. With time, I realized how it started changing me into becoming like what I see on Facebook and Instagram.
I completely deactivated all my social media accounts, even though it made my blog’s traffic to plunge, but my health comes first. So, right now, I think I’m just the only blogger who’s just on Pinterest (less self-competition) and isn’t on Facebook.
Ok, I’m not telling you to do the same but if you feel uneasy whenever you scroll through your Facebook and Instagram, then you need to stop. You shouldn’t allow yourself to feel that way because you don’t deserve it.
At this stage, you want to stop being nervous, overcome fear and doubt. So, if the media is stirring up anxiety, STOP WATCHING IT!
Or maybe you read the comments from people on social media post and become agitated and overwhelmed with all the haters that are in the world.
Then you need to stop!
Permit yourself and allow yourself to enjoy some time to breathe from everything-digitally.
2. Stop Beating yourself up
I often hear my dad call my mum ‘LAZY’ because she’s depressed and fighting her unseen demons. She’ll lock the doors, curled up in bed and just stayed there while I peep. She hated herself for not having the energy to do the things that she loved to do, she blamed herself for not having gone through college and not being a lot of other things. Days after day, the weight of hatred and guilt triples in her. And the anxiety never stopped.
Until she realized that anxiety is a load she needs to offload.
The point is that you need to stop beating yourself up for not being able to get out of bed or for not having the energy to clean your house. You need to forgive all those who call you lazy; they won’t stop because they don’t know what you’re feeling.
This is a situation, you don’t have control of, so stop blaming yourself for feeling this way, give yourself some love for choosing to stay alive every day – that takes a great deal of courage.
3. Stop Worrying too much
This is a very common (and difficult) trap to fall into! And it’s my greatest challenge.
Anxiety can make you think and worry about everything even the smallest and insignificant things, till it becomes an unhealthy obsession.
Do you find yourself over-analyzing every word you hear, whisper, and glance? Do you question other people’s intentions and mull over facts that may never have happened? Please, give yourself a break!
Worrying puts you in mental stress and exhausting you till you’re left nowhere. So, stop spending your days thinking about the things that you can’t control, it’ll ruin your happiness!
Stop letting your worries steal your chance of truly being happy and enjoying everyday of your life. But how? Just keep in mind that worrying will not change the situation; it will only make you feel worst.
4. Stop Complaining
Complaining, on its own is just a bad habit – that seems to make you appear mean and ungrateful.
If you always find yourself complaining of one thing or the other, you easily get depressed
Complaining about something doesn’t make things nor change any event that might have taken place. But, rather be thankful and replace all those complaints with the feeling of gratitude.
When everything around you seems to turn you into a nag- pause and examine yourself to recognize even the smallest things that make you happy. And at that moment you WIN!
I’m not saying you shouldn’t vent, but if it puts you in a dark place after it all, then you shouldn’t.
Whenever I feel like I’m slipping into a very dark mood- I pick up a pen and a paper and write down my anger and fears and once I’m done I tear out the page and burn it.
The lesser you complain, the more positively energized you become. And that’s enough to get you through whatever dark place anxiety might want to throw you in.
5. Stop Having Too Much Downtime
Always find something doing. Whenever your inner mind doesn’t have anything to focus on, you become bored, and start dwelling on things that you’re unsure about and can trigger fear.
You allow yourself to think and wonder about things that might not happen- and suddenly a great feeling of fear and panic starts building up.
What did you expect? You’ve allowed your mind to wander down a path that leads to anxiety and fear.
The best way is to be occupied. Every day set a task for yourself and gradually accomplish it, so you don’t allow yourself to sit around and over thinking things.
You just have to decide and pick it on after the other. You don’t master it all at once but by practice, you perfect. And when you miss a step- “Remember not to beat yourself up, you’re still a work in progress”.
Remind yourself why you started and don’t give up no matter what, I know you got this!