Cruel words possess great power with the potential to shove anybody into a downward spiral of self-doubt and destruction.
They shame and burn you right down till nothing is left.
So cruel, very mean, belittling, harsh, degrading, insulting, condescending, mocking and searing words that can cause blisters to your physical, emotional health and overall wellbeing.
They creep into your subconscious and become the truth that never existed. Just give them a moment of thought, they’ll steal your self-worth; destroy your self-esteem and self-confidence.
When we allow these cruel words they’ll infiltrate self-worth and your life will suffer.
Sometimes when we’re the target of cruel words, we have no choice but to endure the insults. But at the same time, that doesn’t mean we have to accept those words directed to us. No matter what you’ve done, you don’t deserve to be emotionally abused. If you’ve wronged another person, he or she has a right to express their hurt, and you have the responsibility to take correction and make amends.
However, allowing hurtful and condemning words to eat away at your sense of self-worth is no way to do penance for your sins.
To overcome the penetrating power of those cruel words, you’ll have to fight for yourself. Because you don’t have to sit quietly and hope those ugly and demeaning words don’t have a stamp on your beautiful soul.
So, pick up yourself up off the floor, take action now and feel empowered.
How To Overcome Cruel Words Said To You
Here are ways to overcome the sting of nasty words before these words seep into your subconscious and become your truth.
1. Feel the Pain
I always advise you allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling regarding your emotions. Don’t fight it, just allow yourself to feel the pains and your brains to process these feelings for better natural healing to begin.
Most importantly what you should focus on is, how did the words make you feel? Trying to avoid these feelings will only bury them deeper in your mind. So, feel what you feeling and tell yourself it’s ok to hurt.
2. Observe the Words
Analyze the words critically and write them on paper so you can observe them carefully. What did you feel? Do the words define you? No, Right? Then, notice how small and unworthy they are.
Writing them down makes it seems small and worthless so you can easily analyze to actually understand why those words hurt so much (that’s if they did) and what stories or feelings did they trigger in you? You can understand better to change those negative stories into a positive story.
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3. Spin the Lie
Did you allow yourself to observe the words and analyze them? What you should know is that cruel words are never necessary or based on truth. As noted above, whenever harsh and cruel words are spoken, they tell more about the person who speaks them than they do about the person they’re targeted at.
But, the undeniable truth is you’re invaluable, beautiful, bold and loved – claim that and own it as your truth.
So, to a more natural way to heal faster, speak your own truth till it sinks down in your soul and displaces the other lies about you. List all the reasons why the harsh words you heard are a total lie. Speak your own truth and rewrite the stories you’ve been telling yourself about your worth.
You can’t stop others from losing their temper, but you can decide how you’re going to respond. And the place to start is by reminding yourself—over and over again—that it’s not about you.
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4. Forgive Your Attacker
Here, forgiveness becomes a challenge. But it’s just one way to revive yourself and move forward and on from the past. This might seem a bit hard to do but it’s an effective way to heal yourself.
You don’t know what’s going on in the life of another person—the stresses they’re enduring, the demons they struggle against.
Because no normal person goes about hurting other people except they’re hurting too or in the process of healing too – we all have different ways of expressing our pains or letting it out. Somehow, by hurting others they may be trying to heal, protect, tying to avenge themselves in some way.
Rather than judging them or hurting inside, you can ask yourself in what ways might your attacker be hurting? So you understand your attacker’s perspective and less power they hold over you.
5. Practice Letting Go
Sometimes these cruel words hurt us and almost instantly or within a short period of time, we can also forget what happened while in most cases, we seem not to forget easily.
But, to acknowledge and release what was said to you like something in the past that has no relevance in the present, is to let go. It’s probably the next hardest task after forgiveness when you want to recover and heal emotionally.
I know the crueler the words are, the harder it is to let go, but it’s something to strive for to allow yourself inner peace.
Just ask yourself what would be letting go look like for you? Envision it, so you can live it.
6. Make a Promise
It’s so easy to cause pain to others. It’s also easy to let our insecurities and anger get the better of us. And the truth is, we’re all guilty of this in one way or the other.
But, we can all do better if we decide. You decide to recover and heal so you can use the harsh words you experienced to transform and have an impact on other people’s lives? To lift others up, when they feel emotionally down because of the painful changes of emotional abuse? To give comfort when others are feeling unworthy, shamed or excluded? To help others to shine their own light a little bit brighter? Make a promise to be the light you’ve longed to see and never in your process of healing hurt someone else.
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